Parents now dealing with trauma of 3-year-old separated from father at the border

LOS ANGELES – In the living room of the one-bedroom Van Nuys apartment, the boy tried to explain in the words of a 3-year-old what happened to his father. “Papa cae en piso” (“Dad fell on the ground”), he said, turning briefly from a game on his mother’s phone.

Andriy Ovalle Calderon recounted the moment his father was restrained by Customs and Border Protection officers four months ago as he tried to cross into Texas illegally. The boy spent more than a month with a foster family in California before being released in April to his mother, who separately had turned herself in at a port of entry with her then 3-month-old son, Adrian.

Claudia Calderon has been allowed to stay with her mother-in-law while she waits for an immigration judge to hear her asylum claim. Her husband, Kristian Francisco Ovalle Hernandez, was deported to Guatemala.

At night, Andriy sometimes wakes up screaming in the bunk bed he shares with his mother and baby brother. When he started to wet the bed, Calderon put him back in diapers. Sometimes he throws his tiny body down on the floor, hands behind his back, acting out what happened to his father.

As federal agencies work on reuniting more than 2,000 families that remain apart, affected by the Trump administration’s “zero tolerance” immigration policy, many children are struggling to cope with the aftermath of the separations.

A 1-year-old taken from his father in November still wakes up crying, quieting only when his mother reassures him that she is there. In the first week of living in a Jefferson Park apartment, he would grab his mother’s legs and start to cry if someone came to visit.

“Those are absolutely classic signs of acute trauma,” said Dr. Amy Cohen, a child psychiatrist. As a volunteer at an immigrant respite center in McAllen, Texas, Cohen identified and helped traumatized children and adults separated in detention.

A child taken from a parent is flooded with anxiety, which quickly turns into panic, Cohen said. Children’s bodies and brains “are absolutely not built to withstand that level of stress.”

In several letters to the secretary of the Department of Homeland Security earlier this year, the American Academy of Pediatrics opposed separating parents and children, citing the trauma. “As children develop, their brains change in response to environments and experiences,” one letter said. “Fear and stress, particularly prolonged exposure to serious stress without the buffering protection afforded by stable, responsive relationships — known as toxic stress — can harm the developing brain and harm short- and long-term health.”

Robbed of a parent or a known caregiver, children are susceptible to “learning deficits and chronic conditions such as depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and even heart disease,”according to Dr. Colleen Kraft, president of the American Academy of Pediatrics.

“There is nothing worse you can do to a child than taking their parent away,” Cohen said. “For a lot of these children ... even though they’re reunited with their parents, they now have implanted in their brain the fact that that parent can disappear at any moment, for no reason, without warning.”

Before the mother and son were reunited, Calderon said, she received from the Office of Refugee Resettlement a 50-page sponsor handbook that included details on what to expect when he came home. “Children who have a history of traumatic experiences often have nightmares, reliving the terrible things that happened to them,” one section said. “Some children refuse to go to bed and fight bedtime, some struggle to sleep because they are too afraid, and others may wet the bed.”

When Calderon picked Andriy up from International Christian Adoptions in Temecula on April 14, he called her “tia” (“aunt”). “I’m your mom,” she said in Spanish, crying as she held him.

Two months in the life of a child “is almost like two years in the life of an adult,” Cohen said. When Andriy was reacquainted with his mother, he possibly felt tricked and didn’t know whether to trust her, Cohen said. When the boy finally processed who Calderon was, he asked, “Y mi papi?” (“And my daddy?”)

Trying to keep a piece of his father, Andriy wants to wear the shoes his dad bought for him in Guatemala, even though they don’t fit any more.

“I want him to be happy again,” Calderon said. “He’s so little, and he has all of this in his head. ... I wish I could help him, but I can’t. Just my love and affection isn’t enough. He wants to be with his dad.”

Calderon wants to take Andriy to therapy, but said she doesn’t have the money. Instead she tries to console him the best she can, holding him tight every night the way his father used to.

When asked by a reporter about post-release services for children who are separated from a parent, a U.S. Department of Health and Human Services spokesman emailed a link regarding health and safety. “Once a child has been placed with a parent, relative, or other sponsor, the care and well-being of the child becomes the responsibility of that sponsor,” one paragraph said. “For the great majority of children who are released to sponsors, HHS does not provide ongoing post-release services.”

On a recent afternoon, Andriy ran around a park near his house, kicking around his World Cup soccer ball, taking breaks to hug his now 7-month-old brother cradled in his mother’s arms. When he saw a little girl crying on the slide, he comforted her, just like he does his mother whenever he catches her weeping over his father.

– edited from the Los Angeles Times, July 5, 2018
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Syrian refugees deserve freedom from slaughter

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We shouldn’t be surprised that many Americans fear the arrival of Syrian refugees in the wake of [November’s] Paris slaughter by jihadists, including at least one who appears to have entered Europe posing as a refugee. It’s pretty natural. Horrified by the savagery perpetrated on hundreds of civilians enjoying a Friday night, people think: No Syrians need apply here.

What they mean, of course, is no jihadists here. Agreed. There’s no guarantee that there are none here now, but why take a chance? If ever there were a case for abundant caution, it would seem to be now. Except for the fact that what is being proposed by several governors and politicians, including a few presidential candidates, is morally reprehensible, un-American and in some instances, legally untenable. If I may be blunt.

Fear does strange things to people. What happened to our admiration for Franklin Delano Roosevelt’s call to courage: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”?

House Republicans are calling for a pause in the Syria refugee program and for a new plan to handle the immigrants fleeing Syrian violence in light of the recent attacks in Paris.

By recent counts, at least 28 governors have vowed to not allow any of the 10,000 expected Syrian refugees to settle in their states. Legally, governors can’t prevent the free movement of people once they are granted refugee status by the federal government. So this is political posturing, unless the governors intend to take up arms against the feds, which would be especially interesting to the Islamic State.

Meanwhile, several contenders for the presidency have resorted to some rather bizarre interpretations of the Constitution, showing either a worrisome lack of understanding or some unremarkable “thinking.”

Sen. Ted Cruz (R-Tex.), who presumably knows better, has suggested that we should allow only Christian Syrians and not Muslim ones to enter the United States. Cruz promises to introduce legislation along these lines. As President Obama pointed out, we don’t do religious testing here.

Not to be outdone — ever — Donald Trump has said he would even consider shutting down mosques, presumably because they might be preaching un-American values. Where was he when Westboro Baptist Church was spewing hatred toward gays? Or when Terry Jones, pastor of the Dove World Outreach Center, wanted to burn Korans?

The great thing about America? We’ll let any old crank preach his own gospel from any fruit crate or mosque (though not on college campuses, where privileged children hide from mean ideas in “ safe spaces ”).

New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie (Rep.), apparently intent on displaying just how tough he is, said he wouldn’t even let in Syrian orphans under age 5. Both he and Ben Carson say they don’t trust our government to properly vet refugees.

Into this moral morass wanders at least one rational man, Sen. Lindsey Graham (Rep.-S.C.), who has suggested only that we temporarily pause our refugee program — perhaps to recover from the horror and clear our minds. Being lowest in the polling frees one to be rational about this.

Obviously, political polling indicates that the Republican base, already unhappy about ineffective immigration policies, approves of such draconian measures. GOP voters figure if the government can’t prevent millions of people from entering the United States illegally or staying past their visas, then how can we be sure it won’t let in a few jihadists among the refugees?

It’s a fair question that deserves a serious, responsible answer. But it is unfair to label people as anti-immigrant or Islamaphobic when their legitimate concerns are about rule of law and staying alive. Anyone who isn’t concerned about the promised Islamic caliphate at the point of a spear, possibly with your head on it, has better drugs than I do.

From Turkey on Nov. 16, President Obama defended his policy in Syria and said he won’t engage in another ground war in the Middle East. Obviously referring to our attempt to impose democracy in Iraq, he said that freedom from ideological extremism has to come from within “unless we’re prepared to have a permanent occupation of these countries.”

Only the most hawkishly delusional would disagree with this assessment. But freedom from slaughter is something else, is it not? Thus far, more than 200,000 Syrians have died. How many does it take to bestir our moral outrage? When does someone else’s civil war become our problem? And, pointedly, does helping victims by killing Muslim “warriors” reduce or increase the likelihood that radicalism will cease or decrease?

These are all tough questions without clear answers, but our values and principles can help guide us through deliberations. Once we retreat from those values, we will have compromised, and potentially lost, what there is left to protect.

Kathleen Parker is a Pulitzer Prize-winning columnist for The Washington Post, where this column was published Nov. 17, 2015 and reprinted in PeaceMeal, Nov/December 2015.

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Anne Frank and her family were denied entry as refugees to the United States

Anne_Frank.jpg (3423 bytes)Many have noted the historical parallels between the current debate over Syrians seeking refuge in the United States and the plight of European Jews fleeing German-occupied territories on the eve of World War II. Among the many who tried — and failed — to escape Nazi persecution were Otto Frank and his family, which included wife Edith and daughters Margot and Anne.

The Frank family relocated from Germany to the Netherlands in 1934. In 1940, Germany attacked and occupied the Netherlands.

Prior to April 1941, Otto Frank’s business in the Netherlands was still going well. His family was comfortable, and some of the most restrictive moves made against Jews there hadn’t yet been enacted. Hence, he preferred the nuisances that encumbered an otherwise comfortable life under Nazi occupation to the insecurity of life as a double refugee, even if a new country could be found.

Frank tried relatively late to obtain visas to the United States, an ultimately doomed process laid bare in documents unearthed in 2007. The tortuous process involved sponsors, large sums of money, affidavits and proof of how their entry would benefit America. Edith Frank’s brothers stepped in to help; they had already come to the United States and were willing to supply affidavits of support. Even Otto Frank’s high-level connections within American business and political circles weren’t enough to secure safe passage for his family. The moment the Franks and their American supporters overcame one administrative or logistical obstacle, another arose.

By June 1941, with more than 300,000 names on the waiting list to receive an immigration visa to the United States, most U.S. consulates in German-occupied territories had closed or were closing. Otto Frank would have had to go to Spain or Portugal, legally, to apply at consulates there. But as the Frank family filed paperwork, immigration rules were changing, and attitudes in the United States toward immigrants from Europe were becoming increasingly suspicious. The American government was making it harder for foreigners to get into the country — and the Nazis were making it difficult to leave.

With the new immigration regulations, Otto Frank concluded that the prospect of getting into the U.S. directly was dim. So he turned to Cuba as a possible refuge. Despite the considerable hardships and expense — it usually cost about $2,500 per person to obtain a visa — Otto Frank managed to get a Cuban visa for himself on December 1, 1941. Ten days later, Germany and Italy declared war on the United States, and Frank’s visa was canceled.

The Frank family went into hiding in 1942, a day after Margot Frank received a Nazi order to go east to a labor camp and a month after Anne Frank received a diary for her 13th birthday. Their hiding place was eventually betrayed, and they were all arrested and sent to the Auschwitz concentration camp. Otto Frank was the only member of the family to survive. Edith Frank died of starvation. Anne Frank and her sister Margot were moved to Bergen-Belsen, where they died in an epidemic of typhus shortly before the camp was liberated.

“It’s difficult in times like these: ideals, dreams and cherished hopes rise within us, only to be crushed by grim reality,” 15-year-old Anne Frank wrote in 1944 in her diary. “It’s a wonder I haven’t abandoned all my ideals, they seem so absurd and impractical. Yet I cling to them because I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart.”

– edited from The Washington Post, November 25, 2015
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Millions facing misery in worst refugee crisis since World War II

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BEIRUT – Millions of refugees have been condemned to a life of misery in the worst displacement crisis since World War II, a leading human rights organization has said in a scathing report that blames world leaders’ neglect for the deaths of thousands of civilians fleeing wars in the Middle East and Africa.

“We are witnessing the worst refugee crisis of our era, with millions of women, men and children struggling to survive amidst brutal wars, networks of people traffickers, and governments who pursue selfish political interests instead of showing basic human compassion,” said Salil Shetty, Amnesty International’s secretary general, in a statement. “The refugee crisis is one of the defining challenges of the 21st century, but the response of the international community has been a shameful failure.”

The report, titled “The Global Refugee Crisis: A Conspiracy of Neglect,” places a particular focus on the Syrian crisis. Almost 4 million people displaced from Syria have registered with the U.N. High Commissioner for Refugees. The burden has fallen almost entirely on the shoulders of neighboring states, who host 95 percent of the refugees. In Lebanon, one in five people is a Syrian refugee, the equivalent per capita of the United States hosting 64 million refugees.

With its infrastructure stretched beyond the breaking point and its government in a state of disarray, Lebanon has imposed a series of restrictions on the entry of refugees that has led to an 80 percent drop in new registrations compared with last year, despite the continued ferocity of the Syrian civil war.

The report concluded that the countries hosting Syrian refugees have received “almost no meaningful international support”, with the U.N.’s humanitarian appeal to cover the costs of caring for the refugees receiving less than one-fourth of the necessary funds. In Turkey, border guards used water cannons to push back a fresh influx of refugees fleeing the fighting between Islamic State militants and Kurdish militias near the long border with Syria.

Amnesty criticized the international community for similarly failing to respond to massive displacement crises in sub-Saharan Africa, where there are an estimated 3 million refugees, including hundreds of thousands who have fled conflicts in Nigeria, South Sudan, the Central African Republic and Burundi in recent years.

On the Mediterranean migrant crisis, Amnesty called on European nations to share the burden of resettling refugees, and said the scaling back of Operation Mare Nostrum (Our Sea) — the Italian effort to handle asylum seekers fleeing to Europe by boat — had contributed to the increase in the number of people drowning. About 3,500 people died while trying to cross the Mediterranean to Europe in 2014, with 1,865 dying this year so far. The majority of those fleeing by boat are Syrians.

In southeast Asia, 300 refugees and migrants have died at sea due to starvation, dehydration and abuse by boat crews, with Indonesia, Malaysia and Thailand initially refusing to allow boats carrying migrants to land, putting many at risk. Amnesty castigated the Australian government in particular for “harsh, humiliating” conditions in which asylum seekers are kept when they attempt to reach the country.

Amnesty estimated the number of displaced people globally to be above 50 million, a crisis greater in magnitude than any since World War II. The rights group called on states to resettle 1.5 million refugees over the next five years, prioritize saving the lives of displaced people over domestic immigration policies, create a refugee fund, hold a global summit to deal with the crisis, and ratify the U.N.’s refugee convention.

The Guardian (U.K.), June 15, 2015
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